From Make-Believe Love To Real Love by Resilient Butterfly

We see our kids struggling at school, interacting with other children, or falling behind on the playing field, and we want to step in and save them from hardship. By intervening, and shouldering the burden ourselves, we rob those we care about of the opportunity to grow and get stronger.Īs a parent, as a friend, or as a spouse, the instinct to help is hard to resist. It’s a reminder of the fact that while it’s hard to watch those who we are close to struggle, often the best help we can provide is to do nothing. I came across it in Frank Dupree’s book Metamorphosis. You may have heard a variation of this story before. It was the struggle that made it stronger. What he did not know was that the butterfly needed to go through the process of struggling against the cocoon to gain strength and fill its wings with blood. The boy, in his eagerness to help the butterfly, stunted its development. The boy expected the insect to take flight, but instead it could only drag its undeveloped body along the ground. But the butterfly was small, weak, and its wings crumpled. Wanting to help the butterfly, the boy snipped a slit in the cocoon with a pair of scissors. It managed to create a small hole in the cocoon, but its body was too large to emerge. He watched, over the course of hours, as the butterfly struggled to break free from its confinement. The following sad story beautifully describes my feelings about adversity and how we should view negative situations.Ī young boy came across a butterfly cocoon and brought it into his house.

I have maintained energy and a positive attitude throughout the year, and I believe that this has led to some of the outstanding bookings I received during last year. We have all faced exceptional difficulties during 2021 with the continuous problems resulting from Covid 19 and the variants, plus other major issues which have caused incredible stress and mental health challenges.īecause of the belief I have about adversity I have come through 2021 with one of the best years I have ever had. It’s a belief I have about adversity and struggle, and it has helped me come through the challenges and difficulties I faced throughout last year. As we start 2022 I want to wish you a Happy New Year and to also share something which I have used throughout 2021 to help me tremendously.

From Make-Believe Love To Real Love by Resilient Butterfly